The Transformative Potential of Grief 1994

The life cycle itself is a process of such fundamental change that even a few years from now we may not recognize ourselves. Physically, these transformations are often obvious, yet our life experiences can similarly age our emotions, imagination, curiosity, thinking and our willingness to live fully. To appreciate the full range of human experiences associated with growing up, aging and death, we must also have the time to grieve, heal, understand and challenge ourselves again.

-John M. Schneider, PhD

A prescription to hospital sitting and hospital garden design, expressing the cultural union between horticulture and medicine

German theorist Christian Cay Lorenz Hirschfeld (1741-1792) wrote :

Hospitals should be situated outside and away from cities, to allow for garden space. Hospitals should be located away from busy urban areas in a healthy and positive and inspiring location, not in valleys … but on sunny, warm hilltops protected from the wind or on southern slopes on dry soil.

A hospital should lie open, not encased by high walls, not fended in by looming trees. The garden should be directly connected to the hospital, or even better, surround it. Because a view from the window onto blooming and happy scenes will invigorate the patient, a nearby garden also invites patients to take a walk.

The plantings, therefore, should wind along dry paths that offer benches and chairs. Clusters of trees are preferred to alleys of trees, which through the years will mature and meet at the top so that air will not circulate….

Sad conifers should not be used but trees with light and colored leaves and flowering and fragrant shrubs and flowers.. A hospital garden should have everything to encourage a positive outlook; everything in it should be serene and happy. No scene of melancholy, no memorial of mortality should be permitted to intrude. The spaces between the three groups could have beautiful lawns and colorful flower beds.

Noisy brooks could run through flowering fields, and merry waterfalls could reach your ear through shady shrubbery. Many plants with fortifying fragrances could be grouped together. Numerous songbirds will be attracted by the shade peace, and freedom. And their songs will rejoice many weak hearts.

As decorations you could… build seats with roof or a gazebo from which the view is magnificent.

LLama Land

Llama Land Original“Come fly with me, let’s float down to Peru.
In llama-land there’s a one-man band and he’ll toot his flute for you.
Come fly with me, let’s take off in the blue
Once I get you up there where the air is rarefied.
We’ll just glide starry-eyed.
Once I get you up there I’ll be holding you so near.
You may hear angels cheer, ’cause we’re together…”

a life of

We used to think that a man was complete after marriage, kids, a male and female dog with their puppies, and a good job (shelter). However, this idea became irrelevant as we grew. We can be complete if we choose to at any point of our lives. That’s our freedom, learning to live. A life of fear is struggling to live. A life of love is the understanding of our history. A moment of silence could be the highest rank of our creativity. Discovering that life can be complete when we choose to was, is, and will always be the highest achievement of our lives.

joy

every freedom attain is a new joy
when the baby cried out, He held her
when one day ends, a new one is filled with treasure
treasure that can only be discovered by living
life isn’t only a verb, it’s you the subject
and you the subject create the path to joy
if every baby was given one name it will be yours
the heavenly experience of a new life is you, Joy
because with each free life, abundance of life is given
a plural gift that multiples and runs like water
remember her, his, their faces?
they treasure you because your life is full of joy
you are singular and plural
your life is a historical testimony
a mighty long way that becomes beautiful day after day
that’s your life, joy
and it will one day be one hundred percent complete
the exciting reality is that you decide to start living it now
unchained from boredom of destruction
congratulations on becoming a free man
congratulations on making love your priority
and welcome to your life of joy

in our terms, sometimes we want to jump and scream so loud “we love life!” We want to run and smile all the way, or swim and tell the fish, “you beautiful thing!” We can’t sleep at night from overexcitement, we are free and loved to live a life of joy.

uneasy times

it feels hard to focus on the “important things”
nothing is as important as life itself
while I’m seating trying to solve educational matters
my hand can’t get a hold of my vision
the flashes of humanity self-destructing
the idea of flying objects shadowing homelands
the feeling of parents searching
and Boston memories of runners
it’s sad …yet, we “fear no man”
the incapability to solve a historical unending tragedy
will be solved as “the blinking of an eye”
and we shall recover to “be strong and courageous”
“blessed are those who mourn: for they shall be comforted”

save tonight

slight cool breeze
red fruits cover the tree
stretch, pull, got you
there is a bounce-sponge noise on the ground
tonight I picked apples under the moon light
speed race, and slow turn
sing, rejoice, and pray
wake up, read, speak and meet
share good news
remember the last supper
wash her feet, meditate
brake bread and eat
squeeze grapes and drink
we gather at the table and laugh
we walk at the park and laugh
we play at the table and laugh
tonight we laughed
we play sports
we sit at the table and eat
shortly after we train outside
tonight I held a three week old baby
tonight there was a blood moon
so I lay on a wooden deck and look at the sky
it is a magnificent night with eclipse
tonight I fell asleep under the moon light